Wednesday, December 28, 2005

Lena Rajabov gets him back!












Tom took this photo of Lena (our pastor's wife) at the BLTC Christmas party. She came over to see if she approved of it right after he did it. After the party we ended up at the bus stop with them. Her son Pavlek was teasing Tom and snatched of his hat. Lena, in a dead pan voice says:

"Pavlek, that is not good. He does not have hair and it's cold!"

I translated what she said for Tom and he roared with laughter. We really love our Russian friends. She let him take her picture... but, she got him back!

Tuesday, December 27, 2005

Peanut Butter Cookies & Fresh Cheese

New Year's Day is fast approaching. Today was not a day to be out on the street! Spencer and Andrew tried to go out to City Center to hang out. They were passed up by three full marshutkas in a row. That means they were standing out at the stop waiting for almost an hour waiting for a ride. They decided to go back to Andrew's house and hang out there instead.

Tom made an attempt to pick up a package. But, today was the first time they requested an additional tariff on the package. He didn't have enough money with him so the package will have to wait until he gets back from Artirka. Alexei called Sasha to say that an expert from America was coming to milk the cows! Lena says that Sasha makes excellent cheese. I have placed an order for fresh cheese. Hopefully, Tom will prove to be an expert milker and the cheese will be superb...

We have an Ice Show to attend tomorrow. It is The Snow Queen. Tom cannot go so Lena is coming. That should be fun. We may need her to explain things to us. She has never seen an ice show and I love it when things work out like that. When we bought the tickets back in November I had no idea that Tom wouldn't be going.

Tonight we had peanut butter cookies. I put squares of milk chocolate on top while the cookies were still hot. Lena and Alexei REALLY liked them. I sent Alexei home with the recipe. His first one in English. He read it without any problems. Like me, he was suprised that flour was not needed. Russian ovens are a little finicky. So we changed the oven temperature to 180C. The first batch was baked at 190.5C (375F) but that was a bit to hot. The second batch came out better when I turned the oven down to 180C (350F).
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Super Easy Peanut Butter Cookies
1 egg
1 cup of sugar
1 cup of peanut butter
Mix all. Roll into balls and flatten with a fork in cross pattern and bake at 350 for 8-10 minutes.

Monday, December 26, 2005

Happy Boxing Day!

Michelle came over today and her greeting to us was "Happy Boxing Day!" She told Spencer that the holiday is celebrated in Canada, Britian and some other random European countries.... so here is our Boxing Day, Christmas, New Year's Photo.

*Tom's fur hat was purchased in Moscow on his second trip to Russia. It was cold and he need it!

*Alida's otter fur coat was donated by a gracious woman from Capo Beach Calvary Chapel in Capistrano Beach, CA. We found out when we got here that the city in Alaska where it came from (Kenai) is actually the home town of one of our fellow students.

Photo by Lena Parhomenko! Posted by Picasa

Ira & Mommy

Ira also known as Irichka, Ironka or Cuckoo! And, of course, her mommy. Olya could also be called Olga if you wanted to be formal. Remember that with Ira's name the I is pronouced like EE. Posted by Picasa

Alexei's Photos

We went to the movies while the church had a Christmas party. I didn't want to carry my camera around at the mall so I left it with Alexei. It is interesting to see our church family through his eyes! Here is one of his photos. Featured here is his wife Lena, her brother Slavic and their niece Ira.

The Three Red Heads! Posted by Picasa

Sunday, December 25, 2005

Merry Christmas!

It finally felt like Christmas today. This week it has been hard to get into the Christmas spirit. Everywhere we went we were being wished "Happy New Year" in Russian. It was starting to feel like 'where did Christmas go?'

At church we sang Silent Night. That did it! The church was all decorated for Christmas. Valodya and Klaus bought a tree. Tom helped wash the windows. Nathan had made snowmen with some of the other singles and they adorned the windows. I got together with the ladies last week and helped crochet snowflakes for the tree. Singing a familiar tune and seeing the decorations really helped it to feel like home.

Joyce and Hannah were there. Mary the new student from Germany was there. Several of the kids did special numbers. Klaus & Franzie's kids all played their instruments. Tobias on the guitar, Phillipe on the accordion and little Manuel had a bongo drum! Ruth sang a duet with Olya (the worship leader not Vova's wife!) And Hannah played the piano. Oksanna, Olya and Sonja did Angels We Have Heard On High and it was beautifully done. It was the first time I had heard it in Russian.

I got excited and was singing the worship songs a little louder than normal. Alexei has heard me sing before but not in Russian. Only in English. I'm sure when I sang in English it must have sounded like "bla-ah blah, bla-ah blah!"
When he heard me singing in Russian he wanted it louder and louder!

When Valodya got up to speak he said that it was Jesus' birthday. He also said it was not important that we be precise about the date. "Neh vazhnee toachnah" (not important to be exact/precise!)

His question for the day was "what gift are you giving to Christ?"
I had to stop and think beyond the obvious. I thought "I'm here in Russia isn't that enough!" My gift is trust and obedience. It's the best I can do. And I am sure it will be a challenge!

After church we went to the movies to see The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe. Stas's son Dima came with us. I was glad that Spencer chose to invite him. He had a hard time saying yes. He wanted to be able to pay for himself and couldn't. We paid for his transportation, food and the movie. I found out from Tom that one of Stas's teachers from the BLTC had given Dima a copy of the book and that it was one of Dima's favorites. He was so excited to have seen the movie! He will be able to go to school tomorrow and tell his friends all about it. Dima is the best English speaker in his family. When he didn't know a word in English he would use a Russian word but for most of the day he spoke English with us.

This was our first Christmas in Russia. We went to church, the movies and spoke to Mom and Dad on the phone. Just like we would do any other Christmas only this year instead of Kansas to California... the phone call came from New Mexico to Russia!

Saturday, December 24, 2005

Christmas Eve Family Night

Mikie and Yahn are both vying for Nathan's attention along with some NEW KID! We spent this evening with Bill and Judy. We were among seven families that attended their Christmas Eve gathering. We brought over Polar Express. The kids were glued to the TV once it actually started.

Janet, Patrick and Talitha were there. The new family came too. Shane & Melissa are still getting settled here with their two kids. Mike and Kathy stopped by on their way to an all night event at their church.

Lisa and Jim came by too. They had some Russian friends who came over to shower at their home. These friends don't have indoor plumbing and come over once a week to shower. They just happened to choose today and Lisa said she fed them this time.

It was a fun night. Tom went to two AA meetings today with Alexei. When we got home we found him watching Madagasgar. We found an English copy today! We have seen it over and over in Russian but today was the first time in English. I think it is funnier in Russian. Nathan cannot decide. This copy actually has the special features so it appears to be official!
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Friday, December 23, 2005

What's New (in Rehab) Pussycat?

Sasha is the director of the Rehab center that we support. He is swinging his tail around! Today was the big party for the BLTC. It was the most fun staff party we have ever been to. Games, talent, puppet show, gifts for the kids. Russians know how to party.

Sasha has invited Tom out to the Rehab Center on the 29th. There are several men out there who have asked to be baptised and the church has given Sasha permission to do it himself! Tom has the most years of sobriety of all the men invloved in the center and they are excited about having him come out there to be a witness to the first group of men who want to be baptised! There is a man named Valera who has two years of sobriety already and he is one of the guys who is now working with Sasha.

My Al-Anon sponsor required me to attend AA meetings in California to gain a better understanding of alcholism. I understand how hard each day of sobriety can be to hold on to. I am happy for Valera. And eager to hear what Tom is able to report when he comes back! Posted by Picasa

Thursday, December 22, 2005

Father Christmas!

We had a visit from Father Christmas at the school's Christmas party. All the kids got candy from age 1 to ? It wouldn't be polite to post the age of the oldest "kid" in the room. Father Christmas was great at asking everyone in the room what they wanted him to bring. One of the single gals asked for a "moozh" which is how you say husband in Russian. Father Christmas asked her if she wanted a moose or a moozh? She said she would be happy with either one. I would be careful about going to her home for dinner. She is the one who tells stories about making Road Kill Chili!

We have another party to go to tonight and I will post all my photos when we get home later. Right now it is time for a rest!

Oh and I am now officially feeling old... Nathan was invited to a singles event! Posted by Picasa

Wednesday, December 21, 2005

No PETA group here!

Let's see... there is leather, fur, sheepskin, suede and more leather. Leather shoes, boots, hats, gloves, jackets and coats. And then there is fur. Full length fur coats, fur jackets, fur trimmed gloves, fur hats, fur lined boots, and fur trimmed coats. I don't think PETA could drum up a chapter here if they paid people to belong. Leather is a way of life here. Even small children wear leather. Why? It is cold. Leather can be worn in the rain. It is easy to keep clean. Leather is cheap here. And fur lined leather is very warm.

I have a fur jacket that I tried to wear when it first got a little chilly this fall. I was sweating. It is an Alaskan Otter. I wore it the first time it snowed with my black leather gloves and my black angora hat and it was just right! The woman who gave it to me lives in California. California is a state where people are afraid to wear fur. Someone might throw paint on you or harass you in someway. There are people who will look down on you for keeping your dog outside there. They would not like it here. Dogs live outside if you have a house and people wear fur. Just like in the old days before picket signs were invented!

Tuesday, December 20, 2005

Second snow day!

Michelle was happy. Tom's prayers were answered. Nathan thought it was neat. Anna was squealing with delight. Brownie sniffed it and then licked it! Some people were not thrilled about the slushy sidewalks but it was still a great day.

Spencer and Michelle were waiting for us with snowballs when we got to school.

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The teachers were not convinced that we should have the day off due to the snow. Actually, if this were America there was not enough snow on the ground to merit a snow day, either. I mean if this were Kansas we would still have had to show up! Cuz, hey, the streets were clear!

Today Olya was at the school. She got to help out as the teacher for the preschoolers. Kurt and Rochelle hired her for the day. When school was over she was leaving with Rochelle. I was standing with Nathan and Spencer at the bus stop. Olya snuck up behind me and grabbed me around the waist and said "tebyah dehngee eelee zheeznee!" (your money or your life) Spencer was ready to hit her. Fortunately, I recognized her voice!

Monday, December 19, 2005

Scandalous Behavior

Tom and I have a habit of causing a sensation wherever we go. We don't always do it on purpose. At the concert the other night we ended up sitting on separate sides of the aisle. Tom sat with Alexei and Lena... and I sat with Olya, Vova and Spencer. After the show was over I crossed the aisle to see how the others enjoyed the show. Joyce B. was sitting beside Tom and she said "Alida I want to introduce you to someone" I smiled. She continued. "Alida, this is Tom... Tom this is Alida" on cue we both said "ochen preeahtnah" (it is a pleasure). And then Tom leaned in and so did I and we kissed. There just happend to be 4 young ladies around the ages of 15-17 standing in the row behind us watching the whole thing. And when they saw us kiss there was a loud gasp and then giggles. They were in shock!

I told my teacher about it during our time of sharing 'cultural experiences'! She said Russians understand jokes. So, next time I should turn to the girls and say "izveneeteh, ohn moy muzh!" (excuse me, he's my husband!)

You see men do not even hug women in public here when they meet. So for Tom and I to kiss if we had just met...well, that was scandalous!

Sunday, December 18, 2005

Baby Dedications, Haircuts & Movies

Ira was dedicated at church today. We were caught off guard. If Olya and Vova knew about it they didn't say anything. Noone had a camera or anything. And Alexei was not there.

Ira was very cute. First she had her finger in her mouth then she tapped her nose with her finger then it was in her nose. Once Olya saw us smiling she removed Ira's hand and the show was over! Valodya read a passage of scripture and took Ira into his arms and prayed. Ira just stared at him the whole time. When he finished praying Vova began to pray. I almost started to cry. These people are part of our family and we shop with them, go out with them, play games with them and to hear Vova pray for his daughter was overwhelming!

By the way. Valodya and Vova both have the same name. Vladimir. They just both prefer being called something else!

Joyce and Jim had an anniversary this week as did Tom and I. When our names were called to go up and be honored; Tom had me go up alone since Jim was out of town leaving Joyce to go up front alone. So Joyce and I were honored with long stem white roses for surviving long term marriages!

Joyce and Hannah came over after church. Hannah wanted to play some video games. Today was haircut day and Joyce said she needed a haircut so Tom gave her one! I made a pizza with a new crust recipe I found. The yeast we have here is working out well. Pizza and french fries filled everyone up and then Hannah and Joyce left so Joyce could get her homework done.

Last night Spencer and I went over to Bill and Judi's to watch White Christmas. The classic Christmas movie with Bing Crosby, Danny Kaye and Rosemary Clooney. It was fun to watch with Robert and Ann and all of Bill and Judi's kids. Their neighbors came up from downstairs and watched too. We sang EVERY song. Even the men sang along on the "SISTER'S" song. It was a riot!

Nathan and Tom stayed home last night and watch What the Bleep Do We Know? It is not really a "movie" movie it is more like a documentary. It is a good movie for discussion as a family or as a small group afterwards.

Saturday, December 17, 2005

Choosing a Seat on the Bus

The other day Tom and I were coming home on the bus. We got separated because the bus was very crowded. I found a seat right near the door. There was a woman sitting in the seat alone. But, there was a man standing in front of her and a woman standing near the door but close enough that she could have sat down but didn't. I thought "how lucky" and then I thought "wait a minute... what is wrong with this seat?". My thoughts were:

1) Is the seat wet?

I checked and it was dry. I sat down.

2) Is she alive?

I watched her chest to see if she was breathing. She was. That helped me to relax a bit.

3) Does she smell?

I leaned in closer to her and took a whiff. She didn't smell any different from anyone else. I kept the seat and she slept on for about 20 minutes.

When she woke up she finished peeling the tangerine that was in her hands and took a bite of a section. And then closed her eyes again!

There is never a dull moment in Krasnodar. I'm sure your life is an adventure too if public transportation is included!

Friday, December 16, 2005

Nathan You Are Alive!

Lena and Olya came over around 4 today and that was the first thing they said when they saw him. He has not been sick, nooo.

I went to Metro today with Olya, Spencer and Vova. We were hurrying home and got caught in a traffic jam.... that is another story! Nathan sent me a text message saying "I DON'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE HER GO BACK TO SLEEP!"
He was at Olya & Vova's house with Ira. She is 1. Olya wanted to know what he said so I translated the message for her. She was telling me what to tell him. She is speaking half Russian and half English to me to instruct Nathan...so I just hand her the phone. She tells him to just play with Ira because she won't go back to sleep. She told him we would be there in about 20 minutes but he can take Ira home with him if he wants to wait for Lena over there. Just as he is getting the directions on how to dress her and where to find all of her warm clothes... Lena's brother Slavic shows up and saves the day! Ira loves Uncle Slavic. He watches her all the time. She cried when Nathan left her to go answer the door but she was happy to see Slavic when he came in!

Nathan calls back and says that he and Lena cannot get into our house because he does not have keys and when will we be there? I tell him that we were stuck in a traffic jam and I ask Vova how long it will take to get there. I also have Olya talking to me about Lena on my other side. So Nathan does not know who I am talking about or what and when to listen. So he misses me telling him we will be there in 5 minutes and we will honk when we get there.

Vova pulls up and honks really loud 4 times. Olya yells at him and tells him he is going to wake up all the kids in the apartments from their naps! I call Nathan and tell him that was us honking and to come on home right now! We have a lot of things to put away. I shopped in bulk at Metro! Spencer and I start unloading the car and taking things upstairs. Vova helps us and Olya heads home to check on Ira. When Nathan gets home he tells me that Vova came up the stairs and yelled at him and Lena for not coming down when he honked the horn FOUR TIMES! He tells them he got yelled at by a neighbor. Lena yells at him that she didn't know (he is her little brother) and Nathan says he didn't know either, that 's when he told Nathan that I was going to kill Nathan. Vova said I was really going to be angry and for Nathan to watch out when he got home!

Nathan comes home and tells me how mad I am supposed to be (which I was not!) and then tells me about Ira waking up 30 minutes after we took off and he climbed into the crib with her and she reads to him. He said Ira does not read or speak Russian or English she speaks "BABY". After that the bird got out and they went from room to room following the bird. Ira singing or reciting a rhyme (who knows). Nathan was praying all the while that she would not have a messy diaper. He DOES NOT do diapers!

As we were eating marshmallows and drinking cappucino Lena came over with Olya peeking around the door searching for Nathan...

"NATHAN, YOU'RE ALIVE" they said laughing. After we established the fact that I didn't kill him... Spencer made tea and then we had our language time.

Just another day at the Sharp's house!

Thursday, December 15, 2005

knife man!

He was so cool! Rochelle's daughter Kayla told me with a lot of excitment that she thought he was going to "cut all of his teeth out; but he didn't it was so cool!" Posted by Picasa

Down in front

Why won't that lady sit down and take her pictures like the rest of us? Posted by Picasa

a band of drummers

These guys were great. I wanted to yell at this woman though . She is in many of my photos! Down in front!!!! Posted by Picasa

on pointe

The men did most of the dancing on their toes tonight. Not the gals like in a traditional ballet. Posted by Picasa

Ladies in Red

Beautiful... Posted by Picasa

More gals in the band

Is she focusing? Posted by Picasa

My Fair Lady

I love her and her accordion! Posted by Picasa

and the band played on!

Check out the gal with the accordion! She is my favorite. Posted by Picasa

the gang's all here

This is a small portion of a large chorus line. I love the costumes! Posted by Picasa

Diva's on parade

These ladies know how to make an entrance! Olya said "ochen seriosnah" (very serious!) Posted by Picasa

Intenational Flair!

Her dress and his costume were stunning to see in person! Posted by Picasa

Ebony and Ivory

All I can say is these two were flawless. Posted by Picasa

A Chorus Line

These guys actually started out in two groups. Tan on one side and red on the other. And they intermingled for the kick line. They were dancing very fast and kicking up a "storm"! Posted by Picasa

Sword Woman

She has a sword around her waist that you cannot see. Spencer called her sword woman. He thought she was awesome! Posted by Picasa

Russian Flag

The opening number ended with displaying the Russian flag. Posted by Picasa

Men in capes!

These looked like sheepskin capes maybe they were felt... I'm not sure. Posted by Picasa

trio!

We went to the concert tonight... this one was all dancing and it was great! Posted by Picasa

Wednesday, December 14, 2005

O Christmas Tree

Tom was very excited about all the peanut butter that is in the house now. So he built us a Christmas tree out of all the jars. He showed the photo to Lena and she loved it! Later Alexei and Lena came over to watch a movie. The "tree" was still up in the kitchen. Alexei wanted to know if we had a peanut butter factory in the house now!

Thank you Erin for your package today. Nathan has already played his game! And Spencer and I drank tea at school. I got another box from New Jersey that arrived at the post office. It also had tea and peanut butter! We feel blessed to have people thinking of us.

We also got pictures of Rhiana and they were soooo cute! I had to show them off to everyone. Her birthday is the same as Talitha's only Talitha is a year older.

Joan's Christmas card made it before Christmas and I was shocked about that.

I took Judi and Judi over to the yarn warehouse today. It was a fun trip. We also stopped by the office supply store. We still cannot get lined notebook paper. So I need to add that to our list of things we would like to receive. Our needs or wants are not exciting. We have only 5 notebooks left from the 10 I purchased in Rome. I never worried about wasting paper in the states...

At the yarn warehouse the guy heard Judi asking me what "Yun" is. He came over a little later and said that it comes from a 'barahn' which is a sheep. Which meant we figured it out correctly. I knew the word for cotton and so through a process of elimination we were able to sort out what the different yarns were. It was nice to have him verify it though! Posted by Picasa

Tuesday, December 13, 2005

devatsit chiteeree goadah!

24 years! Today is our 24th wedding anniversary. Tom whisked me away from school and took me out to lunch. We went over to the mall. We tried to go to the nice Chinese place there called Minami. But they were closed for a meeting. So, when we saw corn on the cob at one of the other places we decided we had to have it! Afterwards we looked around the mall for awhile and Tom some some Viking Legos he wanted so that is his present. He gave me some jewelry he made. I have a new necklace, bracelet and earrings that are very cute!

Nathan is home from the farm. Last night in a text message he told Spencer that Domo had killed a chicken and a duck. Spencer wanted to make sure that Nathan had not killed the duck so he asked again "who killed the duck Nathan or Domo?" Nathan as a joke replied that "Domo killed the duck...I killed a goat!" I sent a message right away asking if I was getting goat meat! Nathan let me know it was all a hilarious joke. I was relieved. I was hoping it would be a week when they would butcher a cow. But, Tom says there are others who need the free meat more than we do. I would pay for it. I just wanted something I knew was fresh and healthy! The guys take such good care of the animals out there. All that they grow whether it is an animal or vegetable or fruit is superb!

I priced baby items for friends of ours who are expecting. They have not made an annoucement yet. The store I was at had strollers for over 700 dollars. We will not be purchasing anything there! Tom wanted to know if they came with motors?!


We got a graduation annoucment for Alex Cowley today also. She just finished up at K State with a degree in Elementary Education. We are very proud of her and still remember when she was born!

Monday, December 12, 2005

How much do you get at the ATM?

My last job in the States was as Customer Service Manager for a branch of a bank... in America. I tend to notice things with which I am familiar. I notice when the Bankomats (ATM’s) are filled. People stand outside the supermarket waiting as three guards fill the machine. I will not post the details of the security procedure that I witnessed. I do not think that would be wise. I did notice certain steps that were like what we did when we filled our machines at the bank in the grocery store that I managed in Southern California. I was second in line to use the machine when they finished. I chose to wait inside and not out and that gave me a bird's eye view of what was going on. There was a cute little old woman ahead of me who was having a hard time getting the machine to work. She tried 700 rubles. Then she tried 500. I was going to step up and help her but I was still trying to translate the screen! She turned to a woman on the side of us and asked for help. They checked her balance, which is where I would have started! She did have more than enough. Can you tell there is no privacy here? Finally, they got her to a screen that showed the amounts that her card would allow. Her choices were 100 or 200 rubles. She chose 200. This little woman walked away with about 7 dollars. I hope she can eat. I hope that is enough for whatever she needed.
I had to withdraw 2000 rubles. I needed money for a new internet card (520 rubles) and Spencer’s glaucoma medicine (795 rubles) the rest was for our bus passes for December. I cannot imagine what small amounts others have to live on. I know that we have learned to be content with what we have and to make do with less. My bankcard gives me access to larger amounts than hers did. My choices onscreen went up to 5000 rubles. Alternatively, I could choose another amount not offered on the screen. I have done it before with success. Tom and I pray for the people here around us. We pray for them to find work when they need it and we are seeking ways to help them earn money too!

Sunday, December 11, 2005

mental health break

How do you take a day off from Russian? It is not easy.

Turn off the TV?...the neighbor's tv is loud enough that if I put mine on the same channel I don't need the sound.

Only watch movies in English?

The phone will still ring.

People will still drop by.

There is a book that I read from the suggested reading list for school. It is called Have We No Rights? Basically, the answer is NO. If we have chosen to live our lives for God then we have given over our lives to him. We essentially gave over our rights as well. One might argue that we still have rights. The point of the book is that if you have chosen to live in another country or have chosen a line of work that you believe God directed you to... then you are obligated to live through the consequences of that choice. I might decide that I want a day off from the Russian world. But, with a friend who is pregnant and Tom who has a meeting to go to and the boys who also have a social lives... if that phone rings it needs to be answered. There are no answering machines here.

Life goes on and there are lessons, blessings and struggles along the way. I was successful in staying in bed all day. But avoiding Russian... nope, even the movie I watched had Russian at the beginning where you select the play options!

And the phone calls... one was someone wanting to order jewelry from Tom. I would not have witnessed an answer to prayer about that business if I had not answered the phone!

Friday, December 09, 2005

Finally.. a visit to Metro!

This is a link to Metro's website:
when you get there choose the English option!

Take a look at Metro

Metro is like Costco or SAM'S. I went there today with Olya. I was thankful that we were both able to benefit from the visit. She needed to go to keep her card active for another year. And I have never been there! I found some of the cereals that we like. Sugar Smacks and Honey Nut cheerios. I also found that buying trail mix and nuts in bulk saves us money on snacks for school. I found an equivalent for Ritz Crackers. So I can make peanut butter cracker snacks for the boys. Yesterday we got two packages in the mail. One package from New Mexico (thanks mom and dad!)and one from California (thanks again J!), both contained peanut butter. We now have 6 jars! We are not sure how long they will last. Tom sat down with one jar and a spoon and was content!

Metro has large appliances so when we have enough money saved for the washing machine we will look there to see if it is cheaper. (Tom is dedicating his jewelry and cross money to a washing machine!)

Some things were as much as half the price of the supermarket. We were very excited. Olya and I split the cost on things if we didn't want a full package of something. She didn't need two boxes of Vanilla Tea so I was glad to take one and so on! We also found DVD's out there very cheap... less than a dollar fifty. When we got back to my house we could not remember who actually bought one of them! I let her take it and we'll borrow it! It was the Count of Monte Cristo.

I did good with not blowing my whole months budget in one trip. Olya and I can go again in two weeks. We both kept saying "sleydooshey ras" (next time!) And then putting an item back on the shelf. We will make sure that her husband can take us. The taxi ride there and back was expensive. And unlike Krasnaya Plowshad there were no taxi's waiting for us when we came out. We stood and waited over 40 minutes after calling one.

We drank hot vanilla cappucino from the vending machine to keep us warm. Thank goodness for my habit of keeping lots of coins in my purse!
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Spencer had a friend come over today and they played video games for a while before they went to work at the children's home. Spencer has been saving our 2 liter bottles for a bowling game he designed for the kids! Lena said she met his friend Andrew as he and Spencer were leaving.

Tom went to a psych hospital where a new AA meeting was just started by he and Alexei.

There are now TWO AA meetings in Krasnodar!!!!

This new one and one at a place downtown that Tom and Alexei also attend.

Nathan and I had this week off from our social project. My trip to Metro counts as a cultural excursion! I saw a lot of expensive cars in the parking lot and it looked like an afternoon in Orange County, CA. or Johnson County, Kansas. The business owners and the wealthy shop there. Right now they are the ones with access to the memberships.

Oh and I found a palm tree I didn't buy it yet.. I will go back when Vova can take me. Tom wants one for our Christmas tree. Olya told him he needs to buy a "yulkah" (a fir tree). He wants a Palm and Spencer agrees!

Thursday, December 08, 2005

Culture Lessons Part 2

This is most likely an ongoing subject. The director of the school came in today and spoke with our class. She told us several things about the beliefs of Russians that I took notes on:

*American students have to be entertained.

Traditionally Russian schools are teacher centered. There is a lecture and a test; you either get it or you don't. It is your responsibility to 'get it' not the teachers.

*Criticism is a major motivator.
*They don't believe in encouragement.
*Public praise is embarassing.
*Americans are being watched for their reactions. (why should we cry at school? we have money, we have nice things, we have our families here! what reason to we have to be depressed?)
*Adults should be self motivated. (why should a teacher have to motivate us to learn?)
*They don't believe in dehydration. (normally students are not allowed to drink or eat during school)
*They don't believe in mold making people sick. (one family just discovered mold in the walls of their apartment)
*They believe you can get sick from eating ice cream. (they did an experiment where an American and a Russian girl ate a bowl of ice cream and the Russian girl got sick)
*Mercy is not everybody's gift.(we must remember that God does not give everyone the same gifts)

If you say that you are a Christian here it means only that you are not a Buddhist or Muslim. Everyone here is a Christian. This is a Christian nation.

It is would be more impactful to say you are a believer.


It is interesting to ask questions and hear the answers put from a Russian perspective. Tania does a great job of helping us understand the mindset and she tells us about the culture shock her teachers have to face from us on a daily basis! She also told us about a student she has up near the Alaskan border that is 72. She has spent the last twelve years of her life learning Russian. So, there is hope for us young ones!

Wednesday, December 07, 2005

Tom... you have a Russian wife!

Alexei told Tom he now has a Russian wife. He came over and gave me a lesson in how to make borsht. I had told several people that he was coming over and the general consensus seems to be that men make the best borsht. One of my students at Gymnasium #23 told me that he "loves his dad's borsht" especially "the red kind". Alexei gave me a shopping list. Meat, oregano (fresh), carrots, potatos, cabbage, tomato paste, bell pepper and sour cream. He had me chopping and dicing for over an hour! The meat had to simmer for over two hours. After the meat was ready we took it out of the water and diced it. And added the vegetables one at a time and allowed each one time to cook. The oregano went in last. After we added it we turned off the flame on the stove.

Alexei teased me about having a German oven. "she's a German!" a plita is feminine. The front two burners on my stove have a smaller fire than the back two. He thought that was foolish. He said "onna gloopahya!" Anyway, we managed with my "foolish stove" to get an incredible batch of borsht made that everyone enjoyed.

Lena wanted to know if Americans like leftovers. Or if we cook it once and then throw it away? We told her it was fine for us to eat something for a second day. She told us that the borsht would taste better on the 3rd or even the 5th day! Tom does not think it will last that long. I need a bigger pot. I think I may need one like Mom has. It is pretty deep!

Spencer and Nathan taught Alexei and Lena how to play video games. Lena seemed interested in the score her brother got when he was over! Vova did okay But Lena did better!

Today Tom was able to pick up money from the store that has been carrying his jewelry and he placed new items in a Christian bookstore here in town. In English the store name would be Harmony. It is called Garmonia. They took crosses and jewelry. We also had a meeting with a woman from one of the largest churches in town. She ordered some sample necklaces so she could take orders at her church. We are very excited at the interest picking up in Tom's creations. It is a form of worship for him. We hope that the interest will continue to grow!

Tuesday, December 06, 2005

Plates stand on the table

Learning about language teaches you more about the culture.

In Russian the dishes do not lay on the table they stand. Only the silverware lies on the table. Our dishes are set on the table in English. Does that make our dishes lazy?
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Yesterday, Ann saw Talitha standing in the doorway. She calls Talitha "Tinkerbell". Perhaps because she is so tiny and cute. When she saw her standing in the doorway Ann said "tinkerbell is chewing gum!" Tom said "That's my code word!" It sounded like that was the code to rob a bank or something. Robert caught on quick and it was the running joke all afternoon.

Today, Mike, Robert and Tom were all sick with a sore throat. It appears that "tinkerbell is chewing gum" released the virus that made all the guys sick!

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I got a special treat when I opened my email today. I heard from my oldest nephew who is away at college. It was such a blessing to get a note from him and to know that he is praying for us. He is a very special young man. His college graduation is in May of 06'. Our family is very proud and excited for him.

Monday, December 05, 2005

What kind of meat do you prefer?

When shopping at the market in a foreign country it is important to know the names of different meat. I sent Nathan out to buy some meat the other day. He came home with squirrel. He and Tom ate it. They thought it tasted a little different. Nathan knew that "belka" was squirrel so he knew what he was eating... Tom just found out today!

I went shopping for meat today and was looking for bacon. I found bear meat! Medvedinskayah Myasah. I thought to myself "is this a brand name or is this really bear meat?" It was dark and not very thick. Maybe, about an inch and a 1/4. I was in the mood for adventure but my pocketbook was not. I needed to know how to cook it and if the guys would eat it first. I came home and we all agreed to try it in chili! If it is still there I'll get it when I shop again. Then, I can let everyone know how bear meat tastes! I ended up with boring old beef, tuna and pork.

Sunday, December 04, 2005

Whiter Than Snow Featured in Film!




Tom giving Volodya the cross. It hangs in the front of the church.







Communion was held today. No mention of Advent. Maybe because the big holiday here is "novee goad" New Years! Orthodox Christmas is January 7th.

Valodya and Klaus showed a professional film the church made that explains why the church exists. It speaks of the different minsitries the church offers including the Rehab center out in Arteka.

Our family was among those shown going into the church through the "open door". The name of the church has been changed to The Church of the Open Door. It was Krasnodar Bible Church. We are also seen at the baptism held at the river; the guys are singing and I am photographing the event. There is a good shot of Spencer during a service at the church. Oxcana did a great job filming different aspects of the church and the various groups. She also featured some great shots of Tom's cross "Whiter Than Snow". Valodya used the verse that Tom was inspired by in making the cross as his text to speak fromthis morning. He spoke about how each bead represented God's power to cleanse us and make our "souls" white like snow. Following his speaking we had communion.

There was a man from Salihardt among the congregation today. He was very excited that the topic was snow! They have snow about 6-7 months out of the year up there! He felt like the message was just for him!

We are going to order copies of the video in Russian to give away here. And in English to send to churches back home. So if you are from one of the churches we have spoken at a video will be on its way in the next few months. The English copy needs to be made. The Russian copies are ready!

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Last night we had dinner at Jim and Joyce's with Alexei and Lena, Sasha, and Pasha. I was telling them about the student saying "Jesus died on a armchair" Alexei said that was ok.... A Russian man said from the pulpit on a communion Sunday that it was time to "Bite" the body of Christ! EAT is kooshat and BITE is koosat! Alexei said don't feel bad even Russians make mistakes when they speak!

Saturday, December 03, 2005

Hospital Visit

I went to visit a friend in the hospital today. It was a very unique cultural experience. This hospital was extremely old and immense. The only visual I can think of to give you is the view of the inside of the hospital from the old Betty Davis movie "The Snake Pit". It was a nightmare (kashmar) to see rusted guerneys and old beds. The patients have to bring their own dishes from home to eat from. Lena went with me and she had to go to the bathroom. When she complained about the toilet I didn't even bother going in. Lena never complains!

My friend is being hospitalized simply for morning sickness. They think it is very dangerous for the baby. And they will keep the mother until it is over. She may be hospitalized for two more months. She is scared and very uninformed about pregnancy. She has bruises on her arms from them trying to find a vein when taking her blood.

I answered all of her questions. She has not even been able to see her own mother. Her mother had surgery not too long ago and cannot come to the hospital. I talked with her about asking the doctor on Monday to let her go home. She has not seen the doctor since last Monday. I think she will be better at home. She will have less of a chance of contracting any infection if she is not there with all those people who are actually sick!

I spoke with a nurse midwife who has been told that women here have been advised to have abortions simply because they have a bladder or a kidney infection.

I cried when I left the hospital. Tom and I are grateful that we had our children in America. And we discussed the fact the there are probably places in the world where the hospital I was at would be considered a "good one". This is not one of Russia's good ones. Tom had his surgery at a 'good one". I wish I could get that vision out of my head. But, at the same time, I am willing to go back and take her food or spend as much time with her as needed.

Friday, December 02, 2005

Dealing with Difficult People

Nathan and I have been dreading going back to work. We both seem to get sick on the Friday that we need to be at the school we have been assigned to teach at. Today I prayed and planned out a lesson. I chose the classic Christmas poem "Twas The Night Before Chirstmas" by Clement Moore. The problem is not with the children. These are the kids of some of the wealthiest people in the city. They are bright and eager to learn. My problem is with the teacher. Here the learning is teacher centered. If the answers given are not perfect then the students are not rewarded. I tend to give credit for effort. I can hear the children making progress. And learning a new language is hard. If the children act childlike that is frowned upon. Well, even I was laughing at the description of Santa in the poem. As you read it visualize how St. Nicholas looks. The boys were reprimanded for laughing. I felt criticised when I met with her because she thought the poem was too difficult, the print too small and the subject not interesting enough to hold the childrens attention. She was into what Tom calls the "automatic no" mode. I realised in those moments of speaking with her that it was not about me, but, about her mentality. I was doing things differently. And different... is not the same as wrong.

'Twas the night before Christmas
1: 'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
2: Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse;
3: The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
4: In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there;
5: The children were nestled all snug in their beds,
6: While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;
7: And Mamma in her 'kerchief, and I in my cap,
8: Had just settled our brains for a long winter's nap;

9: When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,
10: I sprang from the bed to see what was the matter.
11: Away to the window I flew like a flash,
12: Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.
13: The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow,
14: Gave the lustre of mid-day to objects below,
15: When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
16: But a miniature sleigh, and eight tiny rein-deer,
17: With a little old driver, so lively and quick,
18: I knew in a moment it must be St. Nick.
19: More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
20: And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name;

21: "Now, Dasher! now, Dancer! now, Prancer and Vixen!
22: On, Comet! on, Cupid! on, Donder and Blitzen!
23: To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall!
24: Now dash away! dash away! dash away all!"
25: As leaves that before the wild hurricane fly,
26: When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky;
27: So up to the house-top the coursers they flew,
28: With the sleigh full of Toys, and St. Nicholas too.
29: And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the roof,
30: The prancing and pawing of each little hoof --

31: As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
32: Down the chimney St. Nicholas came with a bound.
33: He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot,
34: And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot;
35: A bundle of Toys he had flung on his back,
36: And he look'd like a pedlar just opening his pack.
37: His eyes -- how they twinkled! his dimples how merry!
38: His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry!
39: His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow,
40: And the beard of his chin was as white as the snow;

41: The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth,
42: And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath;
43: He had a broad face and a little round belly,
44: That shook when he laughed, like a bowlfull of jelly.
45: He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf,
46: And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself;
47: A wink of his eye and a twist of his head,
48: Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread;
49: He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
50: And fill'd all the stockings; then turned with a jerk,

51: And laying his finger aside of his nose,
52: And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose;
53: He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle,
54: And away they all flew like the down of a thistle.
55: But I heard him exclaim, ere he drove out of sight,
56: "Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good night."

I was able to work with them line by line and they were able to recite lines 1 through 18 as a group. We also had them do it one by one. The are many teacher resources online and I found a 'seek and find' word game with words from the poem in it. That was a major hit. The kids got engrossed in seeking out the words. Plus, they learned the English words for horizontal, diagonal, backwards and vertical!

When class was over the kids clapped! And I let them take the papers home. They were excited about the "gift!" Outside, three of the boys found me as I was walking to the bus stop. We had a great conversation about cars, what countries we have visited and where we were all born. One of the boys had been to France, Japan and Italy. The teacher had told them that I don't speak Russian so they were VERY suprised when I did. Our conversation was half in Russian and half in English. They were quite impressed that I knew what a Hummer was when one passed us on the street. Even more impressed when I told them the trivia that I knew about Arnold Swarzeneggar owning the first one in America! ( I know that from watching cable TV!)

They stayed with me until my bus came. I know now who I am truly working for. Tom and I talked about the fact that we are here working for God's glory. Not for the praise of people. It does not matter if the teacher ever compliments me. I see the faces of the children light up when I walk into the room. I remember how I felt when the music teacher or the art teacher showed up! That is my role here. It is my turn to be the bright spot 2 times a month for some child. Is that a major sacrifice? Hardly.

Thursday, December 01, 2005

Review Time!

Lessons 13-19 were reviewed today. We had to go over all the vocabulary from those lessons. It was hard to remember some of those words. It seems like such a long time ago!

Spencer did not want to say the word for 'boring'. If you don't say it right you are saying the word for female dog. Lena told him yesterday that it was a "plohoy russki slovah" ( a bad Russian word) and not to say it. Nathan immediately reached for a dictionary to look it up! She was saying "No, No!" But, since Nathan was spelling it wrong (in Russian ) she explained it to us. We told her it was the same in English. That the female dog word is okay to say about a dog but not about a woman!

When we were in class today and Spencer was avoiding saying the word so I finally explained to Inga, our teacher why he was doing it. Judy said that was like the day when she was trying to say that she put her pencil in her folder 'popka" only she said "pypka" which is the word for butt! Inga said that at least she used the polite word for butt. If you say the word for garden which is 'sod' with a z instead of the s you are saying the not so nice word!

Oh, the things we learn at school! We also heard about the day someone's pastor was speaking at church about Jesus' death on the cross. But instead of cross (kreste) he said kresla which is ARMCHAIR! He had to pause while everyone was laughing!

Gives Easter a whole new meaning!