Saturday, September 15, 2007

moving day

Saturday, September 15, 2007

Spencer and I helped the Parhomenko's move today. It was an interesting cultural experience.

Apparently, women and teenagers are not allowed to lift heavy things. I am not sure of the exact reason why, but it seems we are more at risk to injure our spines.

Spencer picked up a box that Lena knew was really heavy and she had already told him four times not to lift the heavy ones... since he didn't listen to her she punched him in the arm! I told Spencer "she has 5 brothers, remember!".

I was allowed to help clean the apartment. I did the kitchen, bathroom, all the windows and then I dusted. Lena was doing all the rest. We started at eleven and finished at one. I had planned to go shopping with Tom but as I was walking home I decided to stop and get some fruit and veggies at the outdoor market...I started walking slower and slower, I finally realized how tired I was after working so hard!

Spencer had invited Seth over and now he, Seth and Vlad are listening to music. They played basketball for a bit and they all seemed wiped out!


***Congratulations to Erin and James on the birth of their second daughter!


Elysia Joy

Sept. 14th 2007
6:05 am
8lbs 8 oz
20in

Friday, September 14, 2007

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Cars have been speeding through our neighborhood this week due to the major repairs on the main street near our apartment. This means that children and cars are occupying the same space….which makes for some scary moments here and there.

Sometimes we can hear two drivers yelling at each other because they are both trying to go down a narrow lane in opposing directions… who has the right of way? There don’t seem to be any clear cut rules. Car horns honking, boys and girls squealing, parents and grandparents yelling for little ones to be careful were all part of the Friday night excitement!

Our hot water only works on the weekend when they quit working on the apartment building that is going up a few buildings over from us… they shut down all the hot water for the entire block. We were given no warning and have no idea how long it will last. So think of us during the week when we are taking cold showers and fighting traffic just to walk two blocks to church, to the bus stop, or to the market!



***thanks to everyone who was praying for Ann. Her surgery went well and she should be able to leave the hospital on Saturday.

Thursday, September 13, 2007

the weekend!

Thursday, September 13, 2007

Our weekend starts tomorrow morning since we don't have school on Fridays! It has been a hard for week for Tom getting back into the swing of things at school and at church.

Spencer is getting high school credit working as a teachers aide at the new school. He has had a few days where he has been very tired and struggled to stay awake in class.

We have been asked if we like studying in the afternoons. Tom and I are night owls... so being up late is fine with us. We can sleep in and still get to school on time!


Our new lesson at school is about bad habits. Most of the habits in the dialogue are more serious than just popping your knuckles or cracking your chewing gum. The main dialogue in this lesson is about smoking and drinking.

In class today we each had to take turns naming our bad habits... I admitted to popping my knuckles, Spencer admitted to chewing too loudly and so on. Tom was not there today, he went home not feeling well. But, he shared that he hates to exercise!

***Please continue to pray for Tom as he recoups from surgery. Pray for our friend Ann as she has her surgery today.

Wednesday, September 12, 2007

what a day!

Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Today was a long day for us all. Spencer got up early to go to his job as a teacher’s aide at Krasnodar International School. And Tom and I had dinner and a meeting at Tim and Joy’s right after school.

We had a wonderful evening conversing with Tim & Joy W., and Sasha & Tania Sherevlenka . We had not seen them in over 6 months and it was good to spend time with them all again.

Tania started a womens group in her village called Harmony. And she asked me to come and speak to the group about codependency. We decided on the title “Life in an Alcoholic Family”. I will be speaking on October 7th so I have time to prepare. Fortunately, I will not be expected to speak in Russian. Tania has a translator already lined up for me!

The day that we are going out to the village is the day before their daughter’s birthday. They are going to kill a sheep and have a barbeque. This will be our first birthday party in a village. I expect that we will have a lot of fun!

Joy baked and decorated a cake for Tom’s Sobriety birthday. He has been sober for 20 years! It was very sweet of her to acknowledge this day for him. In Russian tradition you say kind and beautiful words to the person you are celebrating. They all took turns saying things to Tom. Joy told us that when she let the kids know about Tom’s holiday, TJ asked if we were celebrating Tom passing his kidney stones! I guess we will have to plan a party for that day as well!!

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

9/11

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Not being in America we have not heard about the anniversary today. We do pray for all the families who still feeling the affects of the tragedy of 9/11.

It was a good day in class. We all did well. Tomorrow is another day and we have a new lesson to work on. This one is about getting things repaired.

Why is it that we get topics like this one after we experience them in real life!? We have had the toilet worked on, the washing machine, and the computer. We need to get our couch repaired and the first estimate we got was very expensive... so we need to call another master to come out and look at it.

We are still going without hot water during the week. Our classmates live in a building not far from us and they are experiencing the joy of not having hot water and of their not having electricity. so I suppose we have something to be thankful for... our electricity has only gone out once since we returned to Russia!

I didn't hear from Nathan today... otherwise, I would have written something about him. I think he is happy though whenever I say his name. Isn't that right, Nathan?

Monday, September 10, 2007

weekends...

Monday, September 10, 2007

After church yesterday Tom and I headed over to the mall to pick up a few things we needed for the apartment. We shopped for a bit and then decided to get something to eat while we were out. After spending a half an hour in line at McDonalds we had lunch. Currently there is only one McDonalds in Krasnodar. And it is always jam packed on the weekends!

Spencer was also in line with a few of his friends. He came by with Tobias and Seth. After getting money from me for food and for the taxi home, he tried to avoid running into us there in the mall. But somehow we kept turning up in the same places. By the time we got home however, Spencer was there with three of his friends playing video games.

Tom and I decided to watch a movie after the guys all left. First we watched Little Miss Sunshine. Then we watched Dejavue with Denzel Washington… what a breathtaking movie. I could not relax until it was over!

Today we will all be together in class. Not sure how that is going to go. We will have a full class of 6 people. Tom might need to do some reviewing with one of the teachers like I did at the beginning of the year. He will be skipping about 13 lessons and there is a lot of grammar to cover in those lessons. How well I remember!

Nathan, I hope that you are happy with this update... we are doing more than just eating sausage!

Saturday, September 08, 2007

Italian Sausage Recipe

Saturday September, 8, 2007

Here is the recipe I used for the sausage:
2 pounds ground pork
1 1/2 teaspoons each cilantro and dried parsley flakes
1 tablespoon anise
1 large clove garlic, minced
3/4 teaspoon salt
3/4 teaspoon pepper

Use a mortar and pestle to grind all the spices together then add to the ground pork mixing all the ingredients together with your hands. Allow to sit in refrigerator 8 hours before using.

When I cooked the sausage today it filled the apartment with a wonderful aroma that was so familiar to us all! I will make pasta tomorrow to go with the sausage... this recipe was so easy that I am sure that I will be making it frequently!

Friday, September 07, 2007

Italian Sausage

Friday, September 7, 2007

One of the things we like to eat but cannot find here is Italian Sausage.

While back home in the states my mother in law and I found a recipe. Today I made my first batch. It has to sit in the fridge for at least 8 hours for the flavors to blend together. If it tastes good I will post the recipe that I ended up using!

Thursday, September 06, 2007

Russian History

Thursday, September 6, 2007

Our new lesson is filled with dates and names and really hard words... for some reason it is Spencer's favorite lesson. Sometimes our lessons begin with a dialogue and sometimes it is a short text. This time the text is 7 paragraphs long. I have Sasha coming over tomorrow to help us through it.

I brought home a copy for Tom. He will be joining our class on Monday. It should be interesting to have all of us in class together... I hope our teacher is ready for us, I'll be praying for her!

Wednesday, September 05, 2007

it is written...

Wednesday, September 5, 2007

Spencer and I have been reading t-shirts just for fun… here are a few of the English ones we have seen:

Just Do It
I Love My Attitude Problem
Born to be Blonde
Bring it On
Feel the groove in your legs
USA girl forever
Baby Girl
Attitude
Imagination can change the world
Prada
G-Unit
Baby Phat
Really love Sunday morning
Witness
Ask me if I care?
Boundless Energy
Republic of Juicy
I’m the king of the world
Grow your mind
Feel the music and Rock forever
Uncle Sam
Smile just a little bit
Shopping makes me feel better

Tuesday, September 04, 2007

Skipping school

Tuesday, September 4,2007


Tom and I went over to the school today to give gifts to the teachers that we had purchased in America. They were so excited over each gift we gave them. After spending time visiting with them Tom wanted to go shopping.

Tanya, the director gave me permission to skip school and spend time with Tom. We were able to get curtain rods so that Tom can get our curtains hung.

That was all Tom was able to do today.

One shopping trip wore him out! It is not easy here… in America we hop in a car and go wherever we want to go. We look for the closest parking space in front of the store.

Here we have to walk to the closest bus stop or phone a taxi. Going shopping is a major ordeal. Once we finish shopping, we have to decide on the best way to get the items home. Sometimes we take a taxi if we have a lot of bags. Today we came home on a marshutka, a public van that holds about 12 passengers. Tom placed the curtain rods in the aisle and we are grateful that he didn’t hit anyone on the head as we got off at our stop!

*** the hot water only lasted the weekend... we are back to cold water again!!!

Monday, September 03, 2007

Tom is home!!!

Monday, September 3, 2007

Tim W. went to pick up Tom from the airport. Along the way he stopped and picked up a surprise for Tom… Alexei!

Tom was so excited to see his friends. It amazes me that Alexei was willing to get up and go to the airport at 4am knowing that he had to attend the first day of a two week intensive session of Biblical Studies at Kovchek today.

I got up at 5 am to be ready to answer the door as soon as they knocked. Tom woke up Spencer and the three of us spent the next 4 hours talking about Tom’s travels, his surgery, our trials with appliances and generally having a great time catching up with one another.

In the states the holiday is Labor Day, but here in Russia we decided it is “Daddy coming home day!” that just means that we skipped school to stay home and be with Tom!

Tom came home with only one suitcase… no he did not pack light, one of his bags got lost. Hopefully, it will be on the next flight and we should get it in the morning.

He had a 32 hour journey home, he is very tired and is now sleeping. He plans to sit out of school this week and will get back into the swing of things next week!

Saturday, September 01, 2007

First Bell!

Saturday, September 1, 2007




















September 1st is when the first school bell of the year is rung. It is always a big celebration here.

Children from our church were a part of this mornings ceremonies at their schools. We can say "pozdravlaio" (congratulations) to a few special kids:

Pavel R. and his sister
Ruth
TJ W. and his sister
Hannah


I pray that God blesses this school year and that each of you enjoyed the morning festivities, celebrating with classmates and friends!


****news update****
and on the fourth day, we were blessed with the return of HOT WATER!
Tom leaves the states today and will be here on Monday!

Friday, August 31, 2007

day three!

Friday, August 31, 2007

Today was day three of no hot water... I used my electric tea pot to heat some water so I could wash the dishes. It took three pots of water to fill the sink!

When Aloana was speaking the other night about what life is like in Dagastan for them she mentioned not having any hot water at all. They have lived there for 3 years and have not had hot water... I won't complain about my three days!

Spencer is babysitting tonight. He is getting closer and closer to being able to buy a slick new cellphone. He already has one picked out. He has been good about calling the new students that are here with kids to see if he can work. He probably doesn't realize how beneficial skills like that will be later on in life. It is not easy to pick up the phone and drum up work for yourself. Since school started he has worked each weekend!

Tom has his bags packed and is ready to go! He is flying from Albuquerque to Washington D.C. and then D.C. to Vienna. In Vienna he has a 14 hour layover. Tom is very resourceful when it comes to down time. I have no doubt that he will find a place to stretch out and rest! His last leg of flying will bring him directly here to Krasnodar! He will get here on Monday the 3rd.

I went to a prayer meeting this morning for the East-West women who are here in the city. We are going to meet twice a month so that we can support and encourage one another. I have to admit it feels like a such a treat to get together with women who speak English!

Please keep our friend Ann in your prayers. I received an email from her husband, she needs to return to America for medical treatment. Ann and Robert were students at our language school, they are also with East-West. Ann was very supportive of me when I reached out to her regarding Nathan leaving home... she is such a sweetheart and a good friend!
















Nathan is now driving solo! He got his licence and is now able to drive himself to and from work!

Thursday, August 30, 2007

our day...

Thursday, August 30, 2007

Today was day number two with no hot water. There is work going on near our building and the hot water has been off since they began working.

We completed our first week of going to school in the afternoon. It is hard to get used to this new schedule. We come home very tired and very hungry. A few afternoons I remembered to put dinner in the crock pot before I left for school so we were able to eat as soon as we got home. There were a few days that I cooked the night before and just warmed it up when I got home. Today, I just made sandwiches and that was good enough!

Today was Oksana's birthday and it was also Yanna's birthday. We were able to see both of them today. Yanna, being one year old, didn't really know that it was her birthday. Olya will do one party for both girls next week on Eera's birthday. That will be fun because Tom will be home by then... and Eera loves "dya-dya Tom" (uncle Tom)

Spencer had a really bad headache today and didn't go to school. He had the whole afternoon to himself. I think he really enjoyed his time alone.

Tom saw the doctor yesterday and called last night to tell me that the doctor said for him to avoid heavy lifting for the next 4 weeks so his "guts don't fall out". He has been very wise about the weight of his suitcases and has been mailing things home... like his 15 pound anvil. It got here yesterday, I cannot wait to see what else he mails home!

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

in one ear...

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Spencer did a load of laundry this morning. He took the towels out of the washing machine and headed to the drying rack in the living room. As he passed me he commented on how cold the clothes were. He said very clearly "the hot water must not be working". I heard him, but, I didn't hear him... you know what I mean?

I decided to jump in the shower real quick and start getting ready for school. Imagine my surprise when I turned on the water and hopped in, NO HOT WATER!

I told Spencer that I just didn't process the information properly... but, I guarantee you I will next time!

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

repairs...

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Slavik was able to come over today to look at the part that was broken on our toilet. While Lena and I were in the living room on the phone trying to find a store that sold the part we needed, Slavik and Spencer were in the bathroom attempting to repair that piece and the toilet.

Slavik is so good at fixing things... he is one of those people that can easily take something apart and then put it back together. Now, the toilet flushes but it still runs for a long time after flushing.

I could make a joke about what a "relief" it was to be able to flush the toilet... but, you most likely would see that as lame!

Monday, August 27, 2007

friends indeed!

Monday, August 27, 2007

This morning Spencer called Slavik to see if he could come over and fix the washing machine. He was not able to come over because he was out of the city. This evening I called Lena Rajobova and asked her if she knew anyone who could help us with our washing machine. Five minutes later her husband, Pastor Valodia was here with Vasa, a visiting pastor who serves as a missionary in Dagestan, they worked on the washing machine and tried to also work on the toilet but it needs a few new parts. I was overwhelmed to the point of tears to have these men in my home working in my bathroom!

We just had a lesson a few weeks ago about how according to Russian culture a friend will never turn you away when you need them. It was amazing to see that in action once again.

Saturday, August 25, 2007

Potato Festival

Sunday, August 26,2007


Fest celebrates Russians' potato passion By MANSUR MIROVALEV, Associated Press Writer
Fri Aug 24, 2:57 PM ET





It was a Spud-nik celebration.

Thousands of scientists, business executives and gastronomes from around the world converged on Moscow this week to lavish praise on a Russian icon: the common potato.

The occasion was Moscow Potato 2007, a chance for leading potato-heads to debate the subtleties of planting, exchange cooking tips and strategize on ways to promote the potato around the world.

Moscow was a fitting venue: While New York is known as the Big Apple, the Russian capital is called the Big Potato. And rightfully so — for the lumpy tuber holds a privileged place in Russian history and hearts.

Among Czar Peter the Great's many reforms was introducing potatoes to Russia 300 years ago. They were initially rejected by the peasantry as "Devil's Apples," but potatoes quickly caught on and eventually came to rival cabbages and beets as staples of the Russian diet.

During the worst famines of the Soviet era the potato saved millions of lives.

Organizers staged the three-day spud fest at the sprawling All-Russian Exhibition Center in northern Moscow — still decorated with Soviet statues of robust maidens bearing sheaves of grain — and at the All-Russian Research Institute for Potato Growing southeast of Moscow.

Boris Vershinin, who spent four decades breeding varieties that could thrive in Russia's harsh climes, admonishes anybody who dares disparage the potato by using the diminutive Russian term "kartoshka" for the vegetable.

"It's 'His Highness Potato,'" said the biologist from the southern city of Kislovodsk. "It's Russia's second bread."

Vershinin gave a tour of the institute's potato plots to international colleagues Thursday, squeezing intriguing specimens as he lectured on the varieties he cultivated over the years.

All the while, he expounded on the potato's legacy in Russia.

After initially overcoming their suspicions, he explained, Russian peasants learned to plant the hardy crop in fields where agriculture is risky because of unpredictable weather, high humidity and early winters.

The potato became a key ingredient in everything from borscht to vodka.

During the early 1920s, as Russian agriculture collapsed, Bolshevik commissars raided villages to confiscate grain and redistribute it. All that some peasants were left with were potatoes, but it was enough to keep many alive.

Potatoes helped ease food shortages during World War II, when there was again widespread hunger. The Soviet Union's 1947 famine could have been much more devastating without spuds, Vershinin said.

For most of the 20th century, Russia produced more potatoes than anywhere else in the world — until the Chinese took the lead in the late 1990s.

Although the Russian diet has drastically improved in the 16 years since the Soviet collapse, the potato still rules many fields here. The Ministry of Agriculture says about 7 million acres of Russian farmland are dedicated to growing potatoes.

Meanwhile, Russians have been learning to eat potatoes in new ways.

During the communist era, Russians knew such things as potato chips existed, but only because they saw them in the movies. Last year, according to market research firm Euromonitor International, Russians bought almost 130,000 tons of potato chips.

After McDonald's and other fast food giants invaded post-communist Russia, peddling french fries to the potato-loving masses, local producers responded with chains grounded in national cuisine.

Kroshka-Kartoshka, or "Baby Potato," founded by two Muscovites in 1998, hawks potatoes out of brightly colored kiosks scattered throughout Moscow and other Russian cities. Their product is served whole, baked and hot — lathered with cheese and butter and stuffed with delicacies such as marinated mushrooms, salmon or fried eggplant.

"The customers vote for us with their rubles," said marketing director Mikhail Kudryavtsev.

Strolling on Krasnaya

Saturday, 25, 2007

Strolling on Krasnaya is a weekend pastime here in Krasnodar. The street is closed off to vehicles. Teens in groups, couples hand in hand, families with children in strollers, grandparents with their grandchildren, women out with friends, are free to wander from one end of Krasnaya to the other.

As Spencer and I went walking down on Krasnaya today, we found 3 Russian-English New Testaments at the Christian bookstore, Harmony. I am looking forward to using mine in church and to begin using it in my personal devotions.




















Spencer found a small porcelain collector’s plate of Krasnodar, and I was able to shop at one of my favorite stores, L’Occitane!




















When we lived in Southern California I discovered L’Occitane while working at bank near Fashion Island in Newport Beach. Turns out that strolling Krasnaya is great for pampering ourselves... body and soul!

Friday, August 24, 2007

Friday's news!

Friday, August 24, 2007

Spencer and I started our day by running errands. We were able to successfully make our internet payment! Now, if I were able to everything in English I would have no fears or concerns... however when trying to do something like that in Russian, I get nervous that I won't say something right.

I was able to correctly ask if I could pay my bill at the UTK center in our region. The woman who helped us had to ask the other person if we could or not! I gave her our account number and she found us in the computer. Then she asked me how much I wanted to pay. It was a smooth and easy transaction.

After paying the bill, going to the post office to pick up a few packages, we headed over to Park Europe. It has an arcade that takes up most of the first floor where you can play a variety of games. The second floor has the movie theatre and the third floor has a restaurant and billiard room. There is a fourth floor, but, it is not open yet. There was also a bowling alley on what would be considered the basement level. Park Europe is located an easy walk from our building!






















The movie theatre is currently showing The Simpson's and The Bourne Ultimatum. Spencer is planning to go to the movies after church on Sunday with Tobias.

A spa is also planned for Park Europe which will be a nice treat for the ladies in the area when it opens!

The decor inside is like old world Europe. The walls look like old homes and the entire center has a wonderful feel to it. Next time we go over there I will take my camera and try to get some shots that show off the beauty of the interior.

Thursday, August 23, 2007

changes...

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Spencer picked up our new schedule at school today. Our class has been moved to the afternoon. For us to change to afternoons means that our friend Lena can no longer work for us...she has other families that she works for in the mornings. I called the school to see if there was another family that she could work for. Hopefully, she will pick up something. They just purchased an apartment and it will need a lot of work to make it livable.

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Highspeed internet!

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

We know that highspeed internet is not a new invention. But, since it is new to us here in Krasnodar we are excited. Now that there is more than one company and choice of plans it is cheaper than it used to be. We did not need a separate phone installed, like they told us two years ago, we have a cute little modem that is sitting on our computer desk!

So now we can surf the internet faster, watch videos online and all that jazz!

Today Spencer met with his new language helper, Vlad. Vlad is 15 and speaks a little bit of English. His Russian grammer is very good and he speaks very clearly and is easy to understand. He and Spencer will meet once a week to go over culture questions and any other questions Spencer has from the lesson. This whole time Spencer has worked with an adult language helper and has not had the opputunity to hear things about Russia from the perspective of a teenager!

Tom called late last night and we got to talk for about an hour. It was wonderful to be on the phone with him. It was hard for me when he was in the hospital to not know exactly what was happening from his perspective. I appreciated hearing from friends and family, I completely value that help, but, there is nothing like direct communication!

Thanks so much for all who have been praying for Tom and checking in here. I can tell from the Statcounter that hundreds of you have checked in over the past week from all over the United States and we are very grateful for the prayers and support!

Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Spencer is so happy he is dancing!

Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Lena told Spencer and I about two new furniture stores near her.

So we all went together to go and find Spencer a dresser... we found this!




















We were able to ride home with the delivery men and show them our apartment. We had to pay extra for the delivery... they charged for each floor they had to climb up since we don't have an elevator! Thank Goodness we are only on the 4th floor!

Spencer had told Lena earlier today that he felt like he was still traveling since he didn't have a dresser. After they delivered it, he dusted it, put his clothes inside, and placed his old suitcase near the door to take out to the dumpster in the morning. I have not seen him this happy in a long time. He finally can relax and feel like he is at home! Thanks so much to Linda and Ed in California for making this possible!

I called Tom today at the hospital. He was still in the emergency room after all these days there in the hospital. He had some special testing done and they will get the results on Friday. They are trying to figure out the cause of the red blood cells that are showing up in his urine. At this point we don't know for sure if he actually had kidney stones that were trying to pass or not... the pain and difficulty he was experiencing could have been a side effect of the pain medication that he was given after the surgery. His stomach has some bruises on it from the infection in his incision site. He said that the spot where the infection is had swollen to the size of a fist. He is still being treated with antibiotics for the infection.

As I was speaking to him he was informed that he was being released and by now he should be resting comfortably at his parents home. He sounded very tired on the phone, we were both grateful to hear each other's voices, we had not spoken since he went into the hospital. I asked him if I should go back to New Mexico to help take care of him and he believed that this would all be over soon. His Dad took care of the paperwork to get reimbursed on the airline ticket Tom had already purchased and there will have plenty of time to reschedule another flight.

Spencer, myself, our church family, our ministry team mates, the teacher's at the language school and all of Tom's Russian friends are very eager to see him again!

edited to add:
this is from an email that I received from my friend Cathy, a nurse in Kansas. She spoke with Tom shortly after he arrived back at his parents house.

He said they had diagnosed him with an abdominal wall hematoma. He asked what that was, and I explained it is basically an area of bleeding that forms a pocket, and could occur any place there is trauma, so it is not totally unexpected after surgery. I'm guessing that was a big part of the swelling he has on his abdomen.

Thanks so much Cathy, for that explanation of the abdominal problem!

Monday, August 20, 2007

Monday, Monday

Monday, August 20, 2007

Spencer loves to get up and get out of the house and off to school before the rest of us. He has been doing that since we started language school. This morning he was at the bus stop for about 20 minutes before I got down there. Our classmate Sonja and I arrived around the same time. Spencer said that no buses had come during the time he waited.

We decided to go across the street and catch a taxi or a marshutka. The marshutkas were so packed that there was no hope of getting on one. On the other side of the street we met up with Joseph the fourth of the four classmates. A few minutes later we were joined by Jason and Joanna.

I spoke with a cab driver and he wanted to charge 3 times the normal rate for the distance we needed to travel. For some reason traffic was stalled and it seemed as if everyone in our region everyone was desperate to get to work or school at the same time.

Our group walked to the next bus stop up to see if it was less congested up there. We saw three buses coming as we walked and knew that it would take awhile for them make the turn around and reach us. We ended up catching that third bus. It was less crowded and Joanna who is pregnant was able to get a seat right away. Someone kindly got up for her!

Spencer called the school to let them know that our entire class plus Jason and Joanna would be late for school. We arrived 15 minutes late.

Spencer and I both had a hard time concentrating in class today... the blessing of having an understanding teacher is that she went easy on us! We always start class with prayer and we prayed for Tom today. Tom is still in the hospital... if the infection clears up he may go home tomorrow. Thanks for all the comments, emails and prayers we truly appreciate the support!

Sunday, August 19, 2007

Tom health status

Sunday, August 19, 2007

Tom was taken to the emergency room last night. As of right now he is still in the hospital.

He is trying to pass a kidney stone, there is an infection in one of the incision sites, and he was dehydrated.

Please continue to pray for him. I don't yet know how long he will be in the hospital, when or if they are going to try and blast the stones to make them easier to pass. As soon as I hear anything I will pass on that info!

Saturday, August 18, 2007

update on Tom

Saturday, August 18, 2007

It seems as if we all misjudged the source of Tom's pain. Not only was he recovering from surgery but he was passing a kidney stone at the same time!

The doctor reevaluated his pain meds and Tom seems to be doing much better now.

Please continue to pray for him!

Friday, August 17, 2007

hurray for the weekend!

Friday, August 17, 2007

what a day!

I got a phone call from Tom last night. He is doing ok. He is getting up to walk, still taking pain medication when needed and getting rest. We were able to talk last night for quite a while... which is a wonderful thing! Until I woke up this morning and I felt the aches and pain of not getting enough sleep.

I contemplated not going in to school this morning. After all it wasn't required. But, I knew that Arina had prepared lessons for me and I didn't want to just blow her off. So I got up, dressed and headed out the door for school. Arina has a personality like Nathan. She does everything in two speeds fast and faster!

We covered three lessons in two hours! She would say "do you understand?, great, moving on!"

I came home to Spencer who had done three loads of laundry! He said he wanted to see if the washing machine is working or not. It did fine for the first two loads and on the last one it started to leak. He tried calling Slavik and could not get a hold of him. So far the toilet still works.

Tomorrow we will go out and look for a dresser for Spencer. We were given a gift from friends who decided that it was time for Spencer to stop living out of his suitcase!

I am enjoying a quiet evening while Spencer is out at a birthday party. I feel very tired physically and didn't want to be a party pooper so I stayed home.

I had a language helper session this afternoon. We worked through the lessons that I had covered with Arina. Then we did the culture questions for the lesson on friendship.

From the perspective of my language helper Oksana, who is filling in for Sasha, she talked about the difference between an acquaintance, a friend, a good friend, and a close friend. She is only 24 and I am 44... she knows at age 24 what it took me until age 40 to learn!!!

Thursday, August 16, 2007

Tom and stuff....

Thursday, August 16, 2007
















I got this photo by email today... it is of Nathan and Tom on Nathan's birthday. Oh to be 20 again!


All I have heard about Tom so far is that he had a rough night. Please continue to keep him in your prayers!

Spencer worked on the toilet tonight... it had been running and would not stop for the past 5 hours. He got it stopped and we will call Slavik tomorrow to see if he can come by and take a look at it.

We received two packages from America today. One of them contained a book that I have been waiting for and the other was filled with TV shows and cd's sermons that were donated to us. We were so excited to go to the post office and see what surprises were there for us!

I have school tomorrow since I am still working to catch up on the lessons that I skipped to join in the class with Spencer. It seems as if our days have been really long since we got back here to Russia. Hopefully, on Saturday I can sleep in!

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

waiting...

Wednesday, August 15, 2007


Tom called this afternoon before he went into surgery... it was morning for him. I have not yet heard how the surgery went.

His friend Alexei called tonight from the AA meeting. I could hear all the people in the background calling out wishes to Tom. So Tom, if you read this before we talk, Dima, Valera, Tatiana and all the gang at the Open Door wish you well!

Edited to add: Tom is now resting at his parent's home after surgery. He will go back to be checked on by the doctor on Monday before he flies home on Tuesday. We are grateful for your prayers!!

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

20 years ago today...

Tuesday, August 14, 2007



I remember very clearly going into labour again! It was our 7th trip to the hospital. Although my due date was not until September 3rd, I was determined not to be sent home that night. When the resident came in to see me I told him very sternly "tell Dr. F that I am not leaving here without a baby!" When he came back in he had a smile on his face and said "Dr. F says that he will see you in the morning!"



I spent the night in labour, got up the next morning and my doctor came by to see me. After measuring me, and the baby, he determined there was no way for the baby to come out naturally so I was scheduled for surgery at 6:30 pm.



Before we were blessed with Nathan in 1987 we had two children that were stillborn. Perhaps knowing that will help you understand why we were eager to have Nathan born while we knew he was alive and healthy.



Two times I was visited by the hospital chaplain back in 1985. Both times it was the same woman. When she saw my name on the board slated for a c-section she stopped in to say how excited she was that we were finally going to have a live birth.



Nathan arrived via c-section and was greeted by name by everyone in the room! We knew he was a boy so everyone was calling him by name even before he was delivered. He was given a bath by Tom and then handed to me to hold.



It is not easy being 9000 miles away from him today. I did speak with him earlier this evening. Since we are 10 hours ahead we actually woke him up to say: "Happy Birthday Nathan!!!!"



Again, Happy birthday Nathan, we truly love you and are grateful that God gifted our lives with your presence!!

Monday, August 13, 2007

Being Nice Does Matter

Monday August 13, 2007



Thank you so much Karolee for the award!! Karolee is a fellow knitter and is currently hosting the Proverbs Challenge.

This is the first award that I have gotten since I started blogging two years ago!

The award originated here: Bella-Enchanted

This award is given to those that are just nice people , good blog friends and those that inspire good feelings and inspiration! Those that care about others that are there to lend support or those that are just a positive influence in our blogging world!

My 7 choices are:

Joann

Crickl

Heartsong

Juloyes

Laundromat

Amy

Yellow


Each of these ladies is a fellow Pastor's Wife, we have all shared challenges and encouragement with one another and I value their input in my life! I always look forward to reading their blogs, hearing what is going on in their lives and am often inspired by the life lessons they share.

Sunday, August 12, 2007

finally back on line!!!

Sunday August 12, 2007

Agromnaya spacibo ( enormous thanks) to Tom! I do appreciate you filling in for me honey!!

Dima came over today after church and got us back up and running. We have lost all of our files so I am sad about my photos. I was just starting to put them onto to disks before we went back to the states and sadly I didn't finish.

At least my blog photos are not lost!

We have Tom's favorite girls here right now... Yanna is trying to walk and Eera is going back and forth to and from the kitchen eating up all the bread!

We had a large American contingent at church this morning. Two of the new families from school were visiting. And all of the Americans who normally attend are back in town!

Let's see what else? Oh, the washing machine is still not working properly. We got one problem fixed and now there is a new one.

So the washing machine, computer and the toilet were all giving me fits this week! The toilet has to be flushed three times before it will quit running. Since that one is just a minor inconveince I will wait and let Tom fix that problem!

School is really keeping us busy. Homework and trying to get to know all of the new students kept us out late each night since Wedsnesday. Two nights we had people over and the other two night we were out past ten! Neither one of us had the energy to go to an internet cafe afterwards so we have been out of touch since we heard from Tom about his surgery date.

I guess that is enough rambling from me for now! I look forward to reading through all the blogs of my friends and getting back to the Pastor's Wives Forum to see what is going on over there!

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Transitions & rites of passage...

Nathan drove on the freeway for the first time as he continued to practice driving & increase his experience. He was told that part of his driving test to get his license will include freeway driving. Nathan & his dad drove from Albuquerque to the next city - & he did good. His transition into adulthood signifies a shift for our family as well, because when Tom leaves for Russia, Nathan will remain in the States. It's funny how healthy & natural transitions bring a dichoomy of emotions with them!

Friday, August 10, 2007

Overwhelming needs in Russia...

Tom ran across this article in The Moscow Times newspaper.
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It chronicles the desperate need for released convicts to have some sort of social rehabilitation program, which are not offered in Russia. With a 98% rate of Russian inmates being an addict & alcoholic, too much of the time when they are released from prison they simply slide back into old, destructive behaviors. Many inmates have their papers & passports lost while incarcerated, & are released with a slip of paper that says they have been released from prison. With this as their only kind of documentation, most cannot find jobs or get hired; so they return to a life of crime & addiction. The article tells of one released prisoner who returned to his former prison official asking to be incarcerated again as he was tired of being homeless & without a job. It's interesting reading & why your prayers & support are so important to the work we are doing.

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

A quick update....

Alida is having computer problems in Russia & is unable to post...so this is Tom filling in. Also, yesterday the washing machine went down but Alida was able to get a 'master' (repairman) to the flat within an hour who replaced the pump.
Tom's doctor appointment went very well. He will be having surgery next Wednesday the 15th. It will be an outpatient procedure & he'll return home the same day. He then has a flight leaving America on Tuesday the 21st & will arrive home in Krasnodar on Thursday the 23rd!! Alida's very excited that Tom's surgery & return to Russia will be sooner than we had anticipated! Thanx for your prayers!

Tuesday, August 07, 2007

still waiting...

Tuesday August 7, 2007

I woke up today knowing that Tom would have his appointment with the surgeon, that soon we would know when surgery is and when he will be coming home to Russia. It is almost 11pm and I need to go to bed. As soon as I hear any news I will pass it on.

Monday, August 06, 2007

back to school

Monday August 6, 2207

We have officially started back to school!


Spencer, myself, Sonya and Joseph came together to form a new class. I feel as if I am in overhead... hopefully this feeling won't last long. I still have a few more grammer lessons to catch up with the rest of them. I am the oldest one in the class and I feel it!


Sasha worked today and help us out a lot. Lena will help tomorrow. It looks like our schedule is coming together. And study time was easier to settle into than thought it would be.


Update:
Tomorrow is Tom's appointment with the surgeon... we are hoping for a surgery date that is very, very soon!! Pray for an open calendar! And a cheap return flight for him!!

Sunday, August 05, 2007

Unique Race

Sunday August 5, 2007

Speed on heels: Russian women run in unique race
Associated Press
Sunday, July,29 2007 (Moscow):
Russian women proved on Saturday that they can do what no man in the world can: running a 100-metre race in 9 cm (3.5 inches) high heel shoes.

The new sports competition, "The High-Heel Race" was held this year in five Russian cities between July 16-28.

Last year, over 200 women took part in the first sprint race in Moscow, Petersburg, Yekaterinburg (the Urals) and Novosibirsk.

The race was such a success that the Russian edition of Glamour magazine decided to support it and turn it into an annual event.

"Generally our women are very fond of heels, make-up, hair-dos, minis and whatever in order to present themselves," said Anna Rykova, a fashion expert.

"On one hand it is not good because their attire is not an everyday one. On the other hand, (this style) attracts foreign men because our women are always looking good - from morning until night," she added.

Oksana, one of the high heel racers, said Russian girls were permanently competing. "Our girls are dressing better than girls abroad and they are paying more attention to what they wear.

Everyday for them is like a beauty contest.

"The winners of each race get cash certificates of 100,000 roubles ($4,000) to spend in the city's shopping malls.

Saturday, August 04, 2007

I wish I could bottle his energy!

Saturday, August 4, 2007

Spencer was up early this morning. He spent time on the internet, ate breakfast, showered and was out the door.

Most of his day was spent digging holes at the new school. He said that it was mostly him, Jim W. and Seth doing the work. Other kids were there to help but there were only three shovels.

He came home tired and smelly, he jumped in the shower, changed his clothes and was off to help out with the English Club that is meeting at the BLTC. He was grateful that he is almost the same shoe size as his dad. He got his tennis shoes really dirty today so he walked out the door with his dads shoes on.

I remember when his little feet would have never fit in his father's shoes... those days are long gone!

Friday, August 03, 2007

two long days in a row!

Friday, August 3, 2007
Spencer stayed home today and enjoyed the quiet!

He had one visitor. Jim W. came over to borrow some of Tom's tools to help build the playground for the new school. He needed saws and a level. Spencer was able to show him where everything was and last night Tom called so he is well aware that his tools have been loaned out for a good cause!

I spent much of the day at language school. I did a four hour session with Arina. We worked on four lessons and she spent one hour on each lesson with me. It was not hard work. Just a lot of information to take in. One of the things I was practicing was about musical instruments. I was trying to say "I play the violin" but what I said was "I play the paper clip".

By the end of the fourth hour I think my brain was fried.

Lena came over this evening with Ira. It was good to spend time talking with her. I was telling her about hiring another language helper. They recommend at school having two and we just had not pursued that. We were talking about the importance of listening to more than one voice... only I said "more than one person's hair!" Lena is still interested in helping out two days a week. And we will have Sasha to help two days a week. That way everyone of us will get time in with a tutor as we are all full time this year.

Ira didn't talk much until it was time to go. I offered to help her with putting on her shoes. She will be three in September. She said to me, in Russian of course, "Aunt Alida, I learned how to do it myself!" I think all over the world children know how to say "I can do it myself!"

Spencer and I ended the day with a movie and pizza. He went to bed early, he has offered to help dig the holes for the posts that will support the playground equipment and he has also offered to help with an English class. He started to carefully enunciate each word after that phone call!

I don't know if I will see him tomorrow... if he gets called in to do playground duty he may leave before I wake up!

Thursday, August 02, 2007

a very long day

Thursday August 2, 2007

I will have to write about it all tomorrow... our day began with school and ended with dinner at Brennan and Stephanie's. While there, Spencer got a chance to meet someone near his age who was helping his dad make a delivery. Spencer helped them unload the wood, cement and sand for the new playground equipment for the international school that is starting up next month.

Right now they have grades K4-10th. This will be a great blessing to many families here with children who wish to study in English.

Tom called tonight and that was exciting! We had not heard his voice in a week.

I have class for four hours tomorrow. I was put in a new class and will move ahead 7 lessons. Tomorrow Arina will work with me on the grammar for the lessons that I am skipping!

Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Fast Food in Krasnodar

Wednesday August 1, 2007














So far, this is the only place that I have found here in Krasnodar, that sells Raspberry Tea.

I know that might not seem like big news... yet, there are so many things that we do without, that it is like an oasis in the desert when we find something that we are used to from home.

I don't have Raspberry tea very often but on occasion, like yesterday I allow myself a treat!

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

the monopoly land baron!

Tuesday July 31, 2007



















When we were out shopping at the mall today with our friends, Spencer asked if we could buy a Monopoly Game. I agreed on the condition that he needed to actually play it.

Once evening hit he asked if we could play... so three hours later he had all the money, property and I was bankrupt! He said he was playing like his dad... and he was thrilled to win for the first time since he started playing the game at age 5. We have fond memories of playing Monopoly Jr!















We considered tonight's game as a language practice session since the game is in Russian. We learned a few new words and had a great time. All of the properties have Russian street names. It took a little adjustment for both of us to call the money rubles instead of dollars!

Monday, July 30, 2007

Lena is back!

Monday July 30, 2007




















She was in Maicop helping her inlaws with remodeling their home. I saw her brother Slavik (see yesterday's post), her sister in law (married to Lena's other brother Vova) and her nieces soon after we got back but I did not see her until today. She called and didn't identify herself but I knew right away who she was... it is not easy to forget the voice of one's language helper. She has worked with us since we moved here in 2005. She had been in Maicop helping her inlaws with remodeling their home.

Her first questions were about whether or not we had practiced our Russian while we were away.

After inquiring about our study habits Lena asked if I wanted some Russian practice tonight and said that she and Alexei could come over at 7 pm. When they arrived they had lots of questions about our time in America and about Tom's surgery.

I had looked up the word for gall bladder..."shoalch-nee poozeer" so when they came over I was able to tell them exactly what type of surgery Tom needed.

Alexei thinks that Tom made a wise choice to stay in America for surgery. He believes that Tom would have been cut the old fashioned way and that the procedure could not be done laproscopically here in Russia.

Lena was especially excited that we have already renewed our visas and will not have our language studies interrupted by having to leave in September like we normally do. We won't have to leave the country again until January.

Lena is going back to college to get a degree in Finance. We won't find out until August what her school schedule will be like and how much or if she will still be able to work for us.


In other news for today: Tania, the director of our school called today and asked if I would look in on the new family with East-West. I was able to tell her that I already had! We made plans to take them to the mall tomorrow.

School will start either on the 2nd of August or Monday of next week. They teachers will meet on the 1st after a one month vacation to decide on the schedule and will call us to let us know when to show up!

Sunday, July 29, 2007

A man of many talents

Sunday July 29,2007















Two years ago Slavik installed my sink, today he is a new deacon at our church in Russia.

It was his Sunday to preach. Slavik is a natural. He was at home in the pulpit. I know that Tom would have enjoyed seeing Slavik up there.

He spoke on keeping your focus on God's word so that you can step out in faith. It is only when we look at our circumstances or listen to doubters around us that we are likely to fall.

Saturday, July 28, 2007

paying for the facilities

Saturday July 28, 2007















I took this photo in Moscow... but the same is true here. There are port-a-potties set up in public places and you pay to use them. The woman inside her "office" is handing the customer toilet paper!

The cost is 15 rubles and at today's exchange rate that equals 6 cents.

Correction: One of hazards of posting when tired is not reading correctly what I typed. Using the toilet did not cost 6 cents... it was 60 cents!!
15.00 RUB = 0.588321 USD (from XE.com)

stocking up!

Friday July 27, 2007

Today was grocery day! We had nothing left in the apartment. When we were finished with our shopping we had more than we could carry comfortably so Spencer asked if we could take a taxi home. Carrying groceries home on the bus is not my idea of excitement so we hailed a taxi!

The most exciting item we brought home from the supermarket is... tortillas! We don't normally find them in the store so I grabbed them up along with some avocados. I didn't get any meat for tacos, we will have to find that tomorrow.

Spencer got up early this morning and went over to the school to drop off our passports with Tania so that we could get registered here in Krasnodar. You have to be registered within three days of entering the country and each time you change cities you have to register in the new city. We registered in Moscow and now here in Krasnodar.

We topped off the day with a movie. We watched Premonition with Sandra Bullock. It was different. It takes a while to understand what is going on. Spencer thought it moved too slow. Tomorrow we will watch Astronaut Farmer with Billy Bob Thornton... we keep hearing great things about that one.

Both of us are still feeling jet lag. Hopefully, by next week we will both be at full speed!

Thursday, July 26, 2007

Back in Krasnodar!!!

Thursday July 26, 2007
Yesterday, we were driven to the airport early... our driver picked us up at 8am for a 1 o'clock flight.

There was not much traffic so we breezed across Moscow easily. Arriving there three hours before we could check in! We were not able to sit, we could only lean against our luggage while we waited.

Once we were able to check in I knew that we would have to pay for the weight overage on the luggage. It cost me 12,386 rubles. Our luggage was 90 pounds overweight. That amount is almost 400$. Fortunately, I was able to go to the cashier and pay it officially and get a receipt. In the past we had to pay a bribe and then go pay the cashier. This time there was nothing on top of the posted fee.

Tom's friend Valera picked us up in Krasnodar. When talking about the weather he said that he felt like Krasnodar was warm... we thought it was hot! It is very humid and I don't think I have stopped sweating since I arrived.

Spencer immediately started calling our friends after we got settled in our apartment. Olya came over with the girls. Yana is so big! She is trying to walk already! Her first birthday is at the end of August and her sister Ira's 3rd birthday is a week later in September.

Some of our friends are out of town and some we will see on Sunday at church.

We are grateful to be back in our home. Spencer was so happy to have his own room back that he turned up his music really loud, went into his room, shut the door and stayed there for the rest of the evening after our guests left!

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Finally made it to Red Square!

St Basil's was beautiful! We toured the inside and took more photos. I will post them later in the week after we get settled in Krasnodar.





Monday, July 23, 2007

what's it called again?

Monday July 23, 2007
Yesterday after attending Moscow Bible Church we went out looking for a crock pot. No success, we didn't see them in the store that was suggested to us.

So we had to ask.

"do you have a little machine that cooks slowly?"
"what is it called again?"
"I don't know what it is called in Russian...in English it is called a crock pot"

"a crack pot?"

stifling a giggle I responded "no, a crock pot!"

We went out again today to a store called Stockman's and there I found a "slow cooker"!

Success!!

Saturday, July 21, 2007

we made it!

Saturday July 21,2007
Spencer and I are in Moscow!

The city is still experiencing the "white nights" so the sun will most likely be up until about 10pm tonihgt!

We are tired, stinky and glad to be off the plane and not waiting in an airport somewhere!

I will write more tomorrow... thanks for all the prayers!

Thursday, July 19, 2007

family photo

Friday July 20, 2007














We took a photo when Nathan got off work Thursday night. My next post will be from Moscow on Saturday... until then!

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

last day...

Thursday July 19, 2007

Spencer and I leave tomorrow for Russia. We are both filled with mixed emotions. We have gotten emails from our Russian friends who are eager to see us again. And we are excited about reuniting with them all.

Spencer will finally get to sleep in a bed of his own again. He has been such a great sport. For the past five months he has slept on couches, floors, in sleeping bags and a bed or two all across the country as we have traveled here and there.

I am not looking forward to leaving Nathan behind. I know that Tom will join me as soon as he can... we will have the rest of our lives together. Our time with Nathan in our home is over.

I have retyped this many times. It is difficult to put into words all that is going through my head right now.

Please keep Spencer and I in your prayers. We fly from Albuquerque to Chicago. Chicago to Warsaw and then Warsaw to Moscow.

Tom has been feeling fine and is sticking to his diet. He is still scheduled to meet the surgeon on August 7th and we continue to pray that surgery will be simple and soon!

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

sculpture

Wednesday July 18, 2007
















Tom snapped this photo of a sculpture on a median in Albuquerque... neither one of us is certain what it is... any guesses?

Monday, July 16, 2007

buying Sudafed

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

I was asked by a friend to bring some Sudafed back with me to Russia for her family.

It turns out that one can only buy 20 pills within a 30 day period!

It may not be the same in all 50 states, this is the case in New Mexico.

We will try to get more for our friends at another store... we have no plans for usage other than for illness, but the people at the pharmacy don't know that... they just have to comply with the law.

Honor your husband challenge finale

Monday, July 16,2007

"We do get more out of our marriage as we accept the downs and enjoy the ups, and most of all that we keep coming back for more and never give up" Christine at Fruit in Season


How true that we must accept the ups and the downs to maintain a long term relationship! This 30 day journey has had some ups and downs. Mostly ups!

I have learned a great deal about myself and my thought life. I have learned that I don't have to say everything that I think and that peace can come into all of my relationships as I change my thought life for the better.

I will continue on in this new way of thinking and will be in prayer for marriages not just here in the US but around the world.

I know that there are people hurting in Russia too.

And as I head back there on Friday I am more aware of our calling to help alcoholics/addicts and their families. One of the families that we did an intervention with seems to be on the road to recovery. I pray for that marriage and for the children.

Thank you Christine for the Honor Your husband Challenge... I know that it helped me and the other 125 women who signed up!

Saturday, July 14, 2007

Natasha

Saturday July 14, 2007














Last September Tom was given the opportunity to teach at the Addictive Behavioural Counseling school in Kiev, Ukraine. This school is open to students who have finished the Introduction to Biblical Counseling School. The director of the program is Natasha (pictured above).


She recently started a blog and her first post is about the opening of an IBC school in Kamchatka, Russia. We are so excited about the potential for the school to reach those who will be able to help many others in return!


Natasha's first language is Russian of course but you can click on any of the highlighted words and the links all lead to websites in English... including Natasha's blog post!

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Visas are here!

Friday July 13, 2007

We can breathe again... our Russian visas were granted for another year! I have to admit that I was concerned after Tom purchased tickets for Spencer and I to leave on the 20th of July.

To understand why I had doubts about our visas coming through without a hitch... the history of past visa renewals are found here .

We have renewed our visas in a gorgeous city on the Black Sea, Odessa, Ukraine in 2005. The following year we were blessed with a trip to Kiev, Ukraine and chose to renew our visas there.

Odessa was great and the consult there was so easy to work with. There was a woman there who walked us through the entire application and was incredibly helpful. Kiev is a beautiful city but the consult there was very frustrating to deal with. The process in America was very simple... there was one phone call made to us after we sent the application in to clarify what type of visa we wanted and they showed up earlier than promised!



Tom surgery update: his appointment with the surgeon is set for August 7th. He has been calling in to see if there is a cancellation that he can squeeze into and so far there is nothing available. We have been told that he should be scheduled for surgery within two or three weeks after seeing the surgeon.

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

shopping...

Thursday July 12, 2007

As I was trying on a dress in Walmart on Wednesday, I felt a case of the giggles come on when I reflected back on one of my early experiences in Russia shopping at an outdoor market with my friend Melanie.

In Krasnodar we do have malls where you can try on clothes in a dressing room. But, the most common place for Russians to shop is in an outdoor market. Trying on clothes there is well... you can read about it here:


http://blackpurlsknitpickings.blogspot.com/2005/05/rain-drops-keep-falling-on-my-head.html

In case you are wondering, I did buy the dress in Walmart today, it was on clearance for two dollars, I bought one in black and one in tan! As a woman over 40 it is not appropriate for me to wear jeans in Russia as I have enjoyed doing here in the US.

I wear dresses or skirts almost everyday, even in the winter. I can get by with wearing my black slacks and truth be told I have gone out to the market in my blue jeans wearing a nice top, full makeup and my designer jewelry (made by Tom) to dress them up... but it is rare!

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Whose life is it anyway?

Wednesday July 11, 2007

Like a mother who so desperately wants the world to see her child shine as brightly as she sees him, I was concerned today about:
His hair
His clothes

I wondered... did he shower? brush his teeth? Would he make a good impression?

We rushed out the door to get him to his job interview, not stopping for me to run back in and get my sunglasses, knowing that it would have only taken a minute but believing that every second counted, we jumped in the car.

He asked me to drive.
Now was not the time for a driving lesson, neither one of us knew the way, we were trusting MapQuest not to fail us, praying that the time we allotted for the drive was enough.

He didn't ask me to worry.
He didn't expect me to take this interview more seriously than he did.

Watching him walk into the hotel where the interviews were being held, I saw his air of confidence. I sat waiting in the car with a Bible and a notebook. Reading, praying and watching the door.

Before this day I thought my mother was silly to worry about her adult children. How did I get from being a confident teen myself to being a silly fretting mom?

Today I saw that my fretting over Nathan is in vain.

He has the type of Godly self-confidence that I have admired in his father since the day we met. Over the years I used to think I had to worry for the both of us since Tom never seemed to.

Now, I can relax... and trust that God has it all under control. Tom and Nathan believe it. And so do I.

Monday, July 09, 2007

Tour de France

Tuesday July 10, 2007














The last two summers I have been in Italy helping out my girlfriend with her daughter during the month of July.


I am not complaining mind you, how can you complain about spending the summer in Rome?


I am just making an observation!... I had to watch the Tour in Italian not understanding what was being said, but, following the action anyway... looking things up on the internet during my daily trip to the internet cafe to make sure I understood "who had done what" that day.

This year I am actually watching in English! What a treat!!!

http://www.letour.fr/2007/TDF/LIVE/us/200/index.html

Sunday, July 08, 2007

30 Day challenge











Monday July 9, 2007



"And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you". Eph 4:32

As I have worked through this challenge I have learned how beneficial it is to my husband and our family for me to practice kindness, have a tender heart, display and grant forgiveness to others.

Reaching Day 22 of the 30 day challenge is a milestone for me... I have not even followed a diet as diligently as I have participated in the challenge!

My goals are being met each week and we are becoming a partner-focused couple instead of a child-focused one.

I found this quote as I was reading the Arp's book The Second Half of Marriage...

"The real mystery of marriage is not that husband and wife love each other so much that they can find God in each other's lives but that God loves them so much that they can discover each other more and more as living reminders of God's presence. They are brought together, indeed, as two prayerful hands extended toward God and forming in this way a home for God in this world" Henri Nouwen in Seeds of Hope

It is my prayer that our marriage will be like those two prayerful hands coming together!

This week's goals:

Help Tom get things ready for Spencer and I to leave for Russia on the 20th.

Continue to encourage and support Tom

Truly listen when he speaks and not assume I know what he is going to say.



***Be sure to check in with Christine over at Fruit in Season and let her know if you are participating in the challenge... you can also read through the blogs of other wives who are in the challenge as well.

What I "dig" abut Jesus

Sunday July 8, 2007

I was tagged for this by TammieFay over at His Word is Life for Me

Here are the rules:

1. those tagged will share 5 things they dig about Jesus…
2. those tagged will tag 5 other bloggers…
3. those tagged will post a comment here with their name and a link to their “dig” Jesus list…


When I was a young teen my grandmother (everybody calls her Big Mama) told me that there would be times in my life when I "would have no other friend but God" and that I "better cling to Jesus as hard as possible". When I have had lonely days... especially over the past two years in Russia... I could hear her words so clearly. Jesus is truly the one and only friend who has been there since the day of my salvation when I was 10 years old.

Here is my list:

His Generosity...
His generosity provides food, shelter, and we see that evidenced in loving support from friends and family.

He is Just...
His being Just helps us to know that all the scales will be balanced one day... evil will not win.

He is the Saviour...
Because He offers salvation we know that we will spend eternity with Him and can share that incredible news with others.

He is Merciful...
His mercy models for us that we can also be merciful to others. The church I grew up in had a sign on the back wall that said "Let Your Heart Be Broken By The Things That Break The Heart of God". I can still see those words emblazoned in my mind.

He offers Comfort...
His Comfort is there for us when we suffer the hurts of life... be it the stillbirths of our first two children, the hardships of life abroad or the general aches and pains of family life, His Comfort is always available to His children.


Here are my 5 that I am tagging:

Joann at Joann's Blog Adventure
Allie at MomMusings
Julie at The Accidental Pastor's Wife
Michele at Laundromat
Jen at Daughter of Eve

Friday, July 06, 2007

Sochi 2014

Saturday July 7, 2007

If we are still living in Russia in the year 2014, the winter olympics would be in our neck of the woods... Sochi is a beach city located about 2 hours drive from our city, Krasnodar.



















It's Sochi 2014: Russia lands its first Winter Olympics

Associated Press

GUATEMALA CITY - Russia's Black Sea resort of Sochi was awarded the 2014 Olympics yesterday, rewarding President Vladimir Putin and taking the Winter Games to his country for the first time.

Sochi defeated the South Korean city of Pyeongchang, 51-47, in the final round of voting by the International Olympic Committee.

The Austrian resort of Salzburg was eliminated in the first round of the secret ballot, setting up the decisive head-to-head contest between Sochi and Pyeongchang.

Pyeongchang led the first round with 36 votes, followed by Sochi with 34 and Salzburg with 25. Sochi picked up 17 votes in the second round to secure the victory.

The result was a triumph for Putin, who put his international prestige on the line by coming to Guatemala to lobby IOC members and lead Sochi's final formal presentation to the assembly. Putin had left by the time the result was announced.

IOC president Jacques Rogge opened a sealed envelope and read the words the Russians longed to hear:
"The International Olympic Committee has the honor of announcing the 22nd Olympic Winter Games in 2014 are awarded to the city of Sochi."

Russian delegates in the hall erupted in cheers, jumped to their feet and hugged each other. They unfurled a Russian flag and chanted, "Sochi! Sochi!" Korean delegates bowed their heads, some in tears.

"It was a historic decision for all countries," Sochi bid chief Dmitry Chernychenko said. "Russia will become even more open, more democratic."

In Sochi, cheers erupted from the crowd of more than 15,000 that had gathered for a pop concert and the announcement in a main square. "We did it all together. We won," the concert's announcer said from the stage as fireworks flashed and boomed.

People hugged and waved their hands in the air. Some appeared to have tears in their eyes.

"It is great. I've never been so happy in my life," said Marina Matveyeva, 23, who works in a bank. "It means that Russia has reached the level of Europe, and we can be proud of our country."

Russia, an Olympic power that has won 293 Winter Games medals, has never hosted the Winter Games. That was a strong point in Sochi's favor with the IOC, which likes to spread the Olympics to new host countries. Moscow hosted the 1980 Summer Games, which were hit by the U.S.-led boycott following the Soviet invasion of Afghanistan.

The Sochi bid won out over the appeals of its rivals - Salzburg, presenting itself as a safe, no-risk winter sports mecca at the heart of Europe with world-class venues already in place; and Pyeongchang, offering the potential for peace and reconciliation on the divided Korean peninsula and promoting winter sports in Asia.

Thursday, July 05, 2007

Transformers!

Friday July 6, 2007




We went out to see this movie last night. Nathan and Spencer really enjoyed it. They both remember the toys and the cartoon from their childhoods. It was surreal to see them so nostalgic for something that seems like "only yesterday" to their dad and me!

Tom's sister Liz went with us and she sat near Spencer and pointed out to him that former president Gerald Ford's son Steven was in the movie... neither Tom nor I picked up on that.

As I watched all the action of the robots, cars, military personnel, computer experts and alien specialists from Sector 7, I could not help but think of all of the past and current transformations in our lives.

Nathan no longer living with our family, Spencer being the only child (almost adult) left at home, Tom and I preparing for life after raising kids. We are transforming into a different kind of family. One that will involve long distances and adult children.

Weren't they just born yesterday?

How did we time travel from being 27 with a three year old and a newborn to being 44 with kids who are no longer kids?

Life happens, transformation is a part of that. If someone would have told Tom and I when we married twenty-five years ago that one day we would be living in Russia and learning Russian in our forties, we both would have laughed so hard at them our sides would have ached.

Yet, here we are... eager to get back to Russia, worried that we will have forgotten basic words during our time away, curious to learn about transformations that have taken place in our absence.

What transformations has life brought your way?

Ruth Bell Graham

Thursday July 5,2007












Blessings in the form of a book from the Billy Graham Association came the other day... As a way to commerate the dynamic life of wife and mother Ruth Bell Graham they are giving away a book of her poetry. Her poetry is written from the heart and initially was not intended for publication.

What a delight it is to read through the thoughts and feelings of such a remarkable and godly woman!

Wednesday, July 04, 2007

Tuesday, July 03, 2007

another trip to ER

Tuesday July 3, 2007

Early Tuesday morning... around 2:30 am, we loaded up the car and took Tom into the ER at UNM Hospital. From about 3am until 8:30 he had an intake session around 4am and a blood draw around 5:30am. But he didn't see a doctor until about 8:30. After that they did some testing. Another ultrasound and a CAT scan. He has sludge in the gallbladder and some small stones. He has stones in both kidneys as well. We left there shortly after noon!

We were told that pain is not an indicator of an emergency. So he can stay in pain and that is not a reason to have surgery anytime soon. Yes, he was given some medication to help alleviate the pain. But surgery is still what he needs.

We came back to the hotel and slept. I had been awake for over 24 hours and Tom had slept intermittently for about an hour.

Needless to say we are both frustrated. He has an appointment with a surgeon on August 7th. Who knows how soon surgery will be after that. We are becoming disillusioned with the medical system in the US... but what can we do? If he had the surgery in Moscow he would have to pay out of pocket for the procedure.

Please pray for us as we wait and weigh our options.

Sunday, July 01, 2007

what does your speech say about you?

Monday July 2,2007












"what does my marriage communicate to those who don't know me?"
Christine @ Fruit in Season

"In our marriage we tell the next generation what sex and marriage and fidelity look like to Christians. We are prophets, for better and for worse, of the future of Christian marriage."
(Evelyn and James Whitehead, quoted in Sacred Marriage)



As I worked this past week on my goals I found myself aware of how marriage is portrayed on TV and in the lives of those around me. Sometimes people are very sarcastic with one another and it can seem funny at the time... but, is it really? Having this realization has helped me to hold my tongue and not just immediately say what comes to my head. How can I honor God or my husband if I speak without thinking?

According to my sources this was a very good week! What Tom thinks of me as a wife is the most important thing.

As I continue to read through "The Second Half of Marriage" I learned that couples can find a communication pattern "that builds on your desire for companionship and we-ness, one that transcends your own tendency, cultural conditioning, or personality".


goals for this week:
continue to speak in a respectful and soft tone
finish reading "The Second Half of Marriage"
relax and enjoy whatever time we have alone together


The recipe for success in marriage is effort plus insight.
-David and Vera Mace